Girls! You are not as slick as you think! You are not smarter nor are you "gaming" these men!
Even without a friend like me(because I tell all the workings of females mind...especially the shady ones), these men have already figured out your "tenative purposes" alot of times from only the second conversation or second interaction with you. Also men have a pretty effective gossip tree/ something like a phone tree. They ask about you, so STOP acting like you have never given up the ass on the first date/kick session. He already knows you have! I'm tired of hearing about your stingy ass...be grown..if you have the feeling and all the proper tools are there...do whatchalike, digital underground style. Chances are it isn't going to change how he already views you. Just make sure you put it on him.... I mean do it "alicia keys, love me like you'll never see me again," style. Increase your chances of a repeat ;).
Please, Please, Please stop stressing the fact that YOU "believe" you are wifey material. Emphasis on you and believe! Is it just me, or are the most trifling, non-discretion having, lacking general direction in their life, loves drama, hoes the main ones running this line of shit! You sleep with guys under the "guise" of just needing a little something...claiming to not only understand but support the "fuck buddy agreement" but really your trying to use the pussy to lure you a man. You try to abuse his time, pop up unexpected you spew the L-word like your a recently busted open pinata! Most of the time making the poor guys that give in to your advances REGRET it! And when you are reminded of your previous acceptance of the situation you get upset, send hateful emails, text messages , voicemails. I have to tell you..if they weren't so hilarious to read or hear about I would be disgusted.
For all you independant women out there...to quote Hov "get yo independant ass out of here , question?" Am I saying its wrong to be independant?..NO! I am not evening saying it is wrong to proclaim your independance. It shows what level your on, and you should by no means settle for a man that doesn't do for himself at all. But when in proclaiming you status you are constantly hacking off the balls of any man, within a five mile radius of you...FAIL! I love the songs too...sing them at the top of my lungs in my car. I think so many of us women forget to listen to all the things they are impling in the songs. Yes she has her own, she works hard, hits the mall, looks good but at the same time she is still making HIM feel like a king. Not just because he did something nice for her..but all the time. Ladies be romantic, even when you "have " him, hell you need to work harder. Boredom will have him ready to pack his bags no matter how fine you are. Let him know you apperciate him, I have no clue where this belief comes from that you should never let a man know how you feel about him or enjoy him comes from but it is WRONG! I mean do not live your life strictly for him but let him know you enjoy him in your life.
No I am not a lesbian! I hang out with mostly men because, frankly, I love men. I was an instant daddy's girl...and have always perfered the conversation of guys since forever. Am I woman-bashing..probably a tad bit. I comes from the hope of enhancing us and helping every woman who is looking for love..to find it. We woman are too quick to blame the man when something doesn't go as our "matrimonial-trained" dreams stetched them out. I am not completely bailing out the man's role in the destruction, but I am saying that sometimes you need to have a break through and realize your major faux pas! If anything I have said describes something that you are currently or have recently done (disregard if you have learned from your mistakes and act grown for at least a year) it explains alot of the reason why you are alone or unhappy! "TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF, AND MAKE A CHANGE!"
I'M GONNA LEAVE YA'LL WITH A TIP
Tip: unless your actually rocking a ring and a sheet of paper to match ...you ARE NOT his wife.
Always play your position ...be it that of jumpoff, friend, girlfriend or fiance. Do look for ways to advance your role ..positive ways though.
AS ALWAYS HERE'S MY LIPSTICK,
B.E.
